As many of you might know, I started my body positivity journey in lockdown. I started to work on myself and began to love my body for what it was. With my body being such a huge insecurity, since I was a little girl, this new mindset really changed the way I feel and present myself. I wish I had done it sooner. Saying that I know a lot of people who want to feel beautiful in themselves and start this journey too. So in this post, I wanted to share a beginner’s guide to body positivity.
In no way am I saying that I am so far into this journey that I am an expert. Absolutely not. But I have found a couple of things that were a great building block for me in the beginning that I want to share.
FOLLOW PEOPLE WHO MAKE YOU FEEL EMPOWERED
It can be so difficult in a world consumed by social media that we feel completely normal in ourselves. At the end of the day, what is normal? Because it isn’t the beautiful models and influencers we see on our feed constantly. But that is how we are made to feel. What I encourage you to do, is find people who are your size, people who normalise normal bodies and make you feel amazing. They are the people you should follow. Personally, I found myself being more accepting of myself when I started to follow more ‘midsize’ fashion influencers. It’s simply because they are the same clothing size as me, so seeing them rock the latest trends and looking amazing, it encouraged me to do the same.
This goes for any shape or size. Try and find people, because they are out there and sometimes they might just need a little boost too. So give them a follow, hype each other up. I promise there are so many body positivity people and accounts out there that are waiting for you to start your journey.
The most important tip for a beginner’s guide to body positivity, and that is to start small. Start with baby steps, something that only skims the edge of your comfort zone. Maybe that is wearing a piece of clothing that is a little risky for you, or posting a picture of your rolls on instagram or even just refusing to let that negative self talk in.
I know when I started this journey, my small step was wearing crop tops. Sounds silly, but I would hate wearing tight crop tops or sports bras because I hated my stomach. But I just did it to push that comfort zone slightly. And look at me now, I am in crop tops most days and I feel totally confident in myself.
It’s those little steps that make you realise the possibilities you can achieve if you just keep pushing that boundary, little by little.
STOP JUDGING OTHER PEOPLE
We are all guilty of it, even if it isn’t for their appearance, we all still judge people. But try and stop that judgemental talk coming through. Notice that you have no idea what someone else is going through.
When I stopped judging other people, I realised that I should be doing to same to myself either. Normally, when we judge other people, it’s negative. So that negativity is only going to come through in your self-talk. But you don’t need to let that happen. Prevent yourself from any type of negative language, whether that is towards yourself or others and you will start to see a difference.
WEAR WHAT YOU WANT, WHEN YOU WANT
Fashion for me has always been a huge form of self-expression. I love clothes, I love trying new styles and prints and just feeling beautiful in what I wear. But I realized that by telling myself ‘no I can’t wear that because it shows my stomach‘ only made me hate my body. So wear what you want, and when you want. If you want to wear a clothing piece because it’s on-trend, wear it. Or if it’s in a gorgeous print/ colour, wear it.
Don’t start stopping yourself from wearing things you want to wear because of your body. Wear what you want, what makes you feel beautiful and amazing. It could be anything, but own it.
FIND YOUR WHY
Why do you want to feel good in your body? Is it because you want to be more confident? Do you want to share your journey online? Or do you want to work on being a better person? No matter what the reason is, you need to find out why, why you want to feel better in your body.
Personally, I wanted to be a better person, I wanted to be a happier person. Being someone who is constantly in their own head, overthinking every step of the way. I wanted to relieve some of that pressure. My goal was to be happy. So by discovering my why, I was able to stay persistent on this journey, I had motivation for pushing that comfort zone.
FOCUS ON YOU
This is all about you. A beginner’s guide to body positivity, starts with you. We are all on our own individual journey and everyone is going to do something slightly differently. So focus on yourself. Don’t look at other people’s journeys and feel disheartened, be happy for them and happy for you own journey too. We all have blips and difficult days, but look at how far you’ve come.
I really hope some of you found this post useful and feel motivated to start your body positivity journey. Even if you are already en route, this post may have just helped to reiterate some of those simple but effective points.
Lots of love,