There isn’t a step-by-step guide to become happy. That isn’t how this works. We are all human, with flaws and feelings. Emotions that constantly change, so we can’t always be happy. However, happiness is one of those things we all aspire to achieve. No one is in a state of constant happiness but there are things we can do to practice happier, more positive thoughts. This is something I am putting into practice every day to improve my mindset and general mood. So I thought I’d share some tips on how to be happier.
ACCEPT THAT IT IS NORMAL TO BE HAPPY AND NORMAL TO BE SAD
Like I said earlier, no one is constantly happy. It is completely normal to feel sadness and to feel happiness. Accepting that the change of your emotions is normal and something everyone copes with is a step in the right direction. It can be really easy to criticise yourself for feeling sad because ‘others have it worse’ but the way you feel is still valid. Give yourself time to be sad if that is what you need, and understand that, that is completely okay.
SEE EVERYDAY AS A NEW OPPORTUNITY
A very simple one. Every day is a fresh start, so see it as an opportunity to have a really positive day. You might have had a few rough days, but still, that new day brings the possibility for something better and brighter. Instead of waking up in the morning and writing the day off because of a few bad days, see if there is something you can do to turn it around.
STOP LOOKING AT THE NEGATIVE MEDIA
Such an important one in this day and age. Stay away from the negative media. Personally, I can’t spend long on any social media as it can get very overwhelming and negative, very quickly. If you follow people who don’t make you smile, unfollow them. Anyone spreading negative energy, unfollow them, block them, get it off your feed. The negative things in the media will only bring out that negative mindset, so follow people who encourage positivity. People who you find motivating and inspiring. That is the sort of content you want to be seeing to help improve your happiness.
PRACTICE BEING GRATEFUL
We all take things for granted and we could all practise gratitude a little more often. Reminding yourself of what you have to be grateful for is a great way to encourage more positivity into your mind. Think of the little things, the simple things you have to be grateful for. Try and do it every day, or as often as you remember. I know that whenever I do this, I feel happier for the smaller things in life.
APPRECIATE THE GOOD THAT IS HAPPENING FOR YOU RIGHT NOW
What have you got going for you right now? Is it a step in the right direction, or something exciting in the works? Something that makes you smile each day. Focus on that. Think about those things that are in the works right now that could lead to something even better later in your life. That hope can provide you with a happier mentality, one that looks forward to the future and is happy to be where they are right now.
DISCOVER NEW WAYS TO HELP PEOPLE
Helping other people is such a great way to feel happier in yourself. Even if it something small, see if you can find a new way to help someone. It could be offering some advice, supporting a small business or even just liking someone’s Instagram picture. It might seem a bit weird and irrelevant but something as simple as leaving a nice comment can make someone’s day a whole lot brighter and it should give you that burst of happiness too.
I’ve said it a couple of time with posts like this, but fake it until you make it. Just smile because you can, laugh at the little things. Little gestures like this will automatically make you feel that bit better. Smile at someone when they walk past you, thank someone who has helped you today, give someone a compliment. Whether it makes you or them smile, you are practising the things that are going to make you feel happier in yourself.
TALK TO SOMEONE
Something I definitely need to practice more, but if you are ever feeling upset or guilty, talk to someone about it. If you feel like there is something in the way of your happiness or you are carrying a weight on your shoulder, talk to someone. Anyone you trust. Sometimes you just need to speak to someone, get a second opinion, get some words of encouragement and you will start to feel better. I know that if I have something weighing on my mind, I feel immediately better if I have told someone. If you don’t feel like you can talk to anyone in your life, please drop me a dm or email (firstname.lastname@example.org). I’m always happy to talk about anything.
LET IT ALL OUT
Similar to my previous point, but maybe you don’t need to speak to someone about it. Instead, just let it out. Scream, talk to yourself, write it down, draw it. However you express your feelings, do it. I always do this to help rationalise the way I feel. I tend to just speak my thoughts aloud, as it helps me to understand them and it makes me more inclined to find a solution. Like I said, having a weight on your shoulder isn’t good so let it out in anyway you can.
Your happiness will always come first. At the end of the day, you’re living your life for you, so if you aren’t happy, then what is it worth? See yourself as the priority, you should do what is going to make you happy rather than someone else. Whether that be saying no, taking some time to yourself, or going after your dreams. Do it because no one else is going to do it for you.
I’d love to know any tips you have for being happier in the comments below or if you found any of these tips useful!