I hope I’ve managed to intrigue you with the title of this post as I really think it needs to be said. For years, I grew up afraid of telling people my clothing size and being ashamed of my body. However, with time, I’ve learned to no longer care about the number on my clothing labels and to just embrace fashion for what it is. So in this post, I’m going to share five reasons as to why I no longer care about clothing sizes. I hope this inspires some of you to love yourself a little more.
For a bit of back story, I am normally a size 10. I have been a size 10 since I was about 13, and through all of the changes in my body, that has been my average size. However, I own clothes in a size 6 and clothes in a size 14.
I used to be ashamed to tell people I was a size 10 when all of my friends were a size 6 or 8 so I just used to lie… even though it was pretty obvious. I’d then tell people that the only reason I’m a size 10 is that I’m tall… I’m really not that tall, I’m of average height. But now, I buy clothes in a range of sizes, and I’m not ashamed to say that I am size 10 which is classed as ‘midsize’.
I guess what spurred on this post is I’ve seen a lot on social media lately of people being angry at a size 10 being deemed ‘midsize’ as they found it offensive because ‘they’re not curvey or on the larger end of the clothing scale’. There is a lot wrong with this statement and I’m not going to get into it all in this post. But the whole point of this post is to show you that no matter what size you are, you shouldn’t be ashamed of it, and in all fairness, clothing sizes don’t really matter THAT MUCH.
IT’S ABOUT THE FIT NOT THE NUMBER
At the end of the day, it is about how the clothes fit that matters. The size that feels the most comfortable and flattering. If a size 10 feels a little tight, don’t be afraid to size up to make the clothes fit more comfortably. I found this a lot with denim jeans. Most of my jeans in a size 12 unless they are super stretchy, because, in all realness, they are just more comfortable. Just be sensible about it, don’t wear a clothing size that isn’t comfortable because ask yourself what is it really worth?
It’s like buying oversized clothes. If you want to wear a sweatshirt as a dress, then you’re probably going to get it in a couple of sizes bigger. But to a lot of people, this seems pretty normal and ‘trendy’. So why aren’t we having this mindset for all of our clothes? If you are comfortable with the fit of your clothes, then there really shouldn’t be a reason to focus so much on the size it’s in.
IT ISN’T UNIVERSAL
I think we’ve all faced this issue. A H&M size 10 is completely different from a Topshop size 10. The proportions are completely different, one fits and the other doesn’t. That’s okay because clothing sizes, although are supposed to be, aren’t actually universal.
For ages, I would never go to H&M because I knew I couldn’t fit into a size 10 and didn’t want to buy a size 12. So I stuck to shops that had size 10 clothing that fit me. If I could fit into an 8, the shop was even better in my eyes. But this was the worst possible mindset and only encouraged my negative body image.
Going back to the last point, it’s the fit that matters. And that is why clothing sizes aren’t universal. We all like our clothes to fit differently. And yes, H&M size 10 jeans are made for people who are actually a size 6 in other shops. But as long as we are happy in clothes, why should the sizing matter?
Now I get annoyed as much as the next person when I order a size 10 and it fits like a size 6, but I’m not going to get myself down in the dumps about it. Because it’s the clothing brand’s problem, not mine or my body’s.
I LIKE MOST THINGS OVERSIZED ANYWAY
This is more a personal point, but I love oversized clothes and you will see me in them most of the time. It all goes back to my first point, the fit is what matters. I like huge clothes. They are flattering, easy to style and so comfortable. But that is just my style. So I would say I’m pretty accustomed to buying clothes that are way too big for me. I love a good men’s shirt in a size XL or a women’s t-shirt in a size 16 because I want to wear it as a dress.
When I go into shops now, I don’t really tend to look at the sizes. I usually just pick it up, hold it against my body and estimate if it would fit me or not. Especially with oversized clothes, I’d check the length, the arm length the width before even looking at the actual size.
IT’S ABOUT HOW YOU FEEL IN WHAT YOU WEAR
You’ll hear me say it until the day I die. Confidence starts from you and from the inside. If you feel comfortable in what you wear, that speaks volumes compared to the size you are or buy. You don’t need to explain your clothing sizes to anyone, it isn’t something that needs justifying and it shouldn’t be something to be ashamed of.
If you feel beautiful in what you wear. You love the way it fits. Then wear it and love it. Screw the clothing sizes, what matters is how you feel.
THEY’RE JUST CLOTHES
Not to be that person, but it is kind of true. They are just clothes. Nowadays, it can be so easy to get hung up on numbers and what other people wear or their size. But they really are just clothes. I always say it, but it is basically my motto, and ‘it really isn’t that deep’. Clothes are clothes. We wear them for fun, to be creative and to feel beautiful. They aren’t here to torture us, bully us or make us feel ashamed. That is what society have caused us to think.
So I beg you, please don’t be ashamed of your clothing size. Or your size or shape. You are beautiful inside and out.
This post turned into quite the passionate ramble, but I hope you enjoyed. Body confidence is something I’m so passionate about and I can only wish I encourage some of you to feel beautiful in the body you are in.
Lots of love,